How Chelsea Handler Got Free From Childhood Trauma

“ I didn’t think that I had the right to be in pain”, these words from Chelsea Handler on the Bill Maher show recently got my attention. My husband Jason was watching Bill Maher and I was half paying attention. I am not a huge fan of his or of shows on politics because they […]

The Right Way is Different for Everyone

Trauma Triggers Can Be Tricky Business For some time now I have been speaking and writing about the impact of trauma on entrepreneurship and small businesses. I have outlined the differences between “little t” and “big T” traumas, and I have discussed the blocks and blind spots which are created by trauma for female founders and […]

Does Your Business Design Include Emotional Sustainability?

Or Are We Co-Signing Abusive Business Behaviors? Hustling toward success does not have to mean leaving ourselves emotionally bereft yet this is exactly how many “highly successful” business owners drive themselves to the top. We know these people … the ones who avoid emotion and personal challenges with “I just threw myself into my work.” You […]

Give them what they paid for and that is it!!

Greetings from SC! I had an experience last night I wanted to share with you!  Let me give you a little background first. One of the biggest struggles that I am seeing right now, is the struggle around pricing services. I see peers and clients battling themselves when it comes to this topic. They have […]

5 Steps To Loving Your Most Unloveable Parts

For almost 20 years in my role as therapist and now coach, I have been asking my clients to fall in love with their most unloveable self. It has been no easy task to get them to stop hating these aspects of themselves, and almost impossible to get them to buy into the idea that […]

Dear 2017….

Why I am a firm believer in writing love letters.  I think that too often we get stuck in the mindset that challenging experiences need to be pushed through and forgotten or overcome. We really struggle with sitting with discomfort and difficult emotions. The food and alcohol industry proves that we are not very skilled at […]

How #metoo Experiences Affect Female Founders & The Businesses They Run

If the vast majority of women have a #metoo story about sexual abuse, assault, or unwanted advances, how does that affect the growing numbers of women who are starting businesses today? How does this common but all-too-personal trauma impact the success and health of female entrepreneurs? I have been working with female entrepreneurs for several […]

The pressure to earn money, can often repel it!

“With college around the corner and my super slow summer workload, I’m beginning to freak out.” This was a recent client conversation. I could hear the stress and anxiety in her voice. I asked some questions in the hopes of shifting some anxiety and providing some relief. Was her eighteen year old ready for college? […]

How Little t Trauma May Be Hurting Your Business

Even though many years have passed, I can still remember the moment that  I was finally given the permission that I needed to begin my healing. I was sitting on the couch of my new therapist’s office and I was giving her the usual rundown of my life. I gave her the family history, childhood […]

A Love Letter To My Ex Husbands

Last week I attended an event and I was peppered with the usual questions, are you married, how long etc? I am a pretty open person and when I mentioned my ex husbands ( yes 2 we will get to that), I was met with the usual negative perception, and eye rolling about the EX […]