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The pressure to earn money, can often repel it!

“With college around the corner and my super slow summer workload, I’m beginning to freak out.”

This was a recent client conversation. I could hear the stress and anxiety in her voice.

I asked some questions in the hopes of shifting some anxiety and providing some relief. Was her eighteen year old ready for college? Yes. Was tuition taken care of? Yes. It was a mix of scholarships, grants, and heavy college loans. The loans were leading to some guilt.

I invited her to consider that her mindset about the loans projected lack towards her kiddo. I asked if she had confidence that the loans would be paid off after graduation. She said yes and that she was confident that college would prepare her child for employment and that loans would be easily repaid.

This conversation helped shift her mindset from lack and guilt to abundance and confidence.

The next hurdle was the interwoven connection she had created between college tuition and the financial success of her business. In her mind, she had created an urgency for the business to do well so that money was not an issue and tuition would not seem so daunting. This train of thought led to increased pressure to succeed. That kind of pressure actually makes it more difficult to be successful. It’s the kind that keeps us immobilized while the fear and anxiety grow.

So, I invited her to take a step back as we looked at some questions:

  1. If your child had everything needed and college costs were covered, would you still want to make more money in your business?
  2. And would you still want more high paying and exquisitely ideal clients to work with?

 

The short answers? HELL YES! So, I invited her to release the connection between her child going to college and her desire to make more money and do more with her business. We used EFT to shift the language and the emotion behind this connection. She realized that she would do those things anyway for her business and released the emotional connection between the two.

It was actually quite powerful and as seems to happen several times when I’m in an intense session, our phone connection went in and out several times at key points in the process. We were both a bit in awe of the transformation.

What began with stress and anxiety had shifted to positivity and ease. This is the power of mindset work.

I checked in on her recently and asked if the shift in mindset we created that day had stuck and her answer was a resounding yes! In fact, she had used some of the “script” we used several times to remind herself not to connect her business success with college finances. It helped her refocus and continue to feel empowered by a shift in her own money mindset.

It is not uncommon for us to create stories around our money and emotions that disempower us in our business. Her messaging was “With kids going to college, I feel guilty that I don’t have more money and my business isn’t making more money, so I really have to hustle to succeed.” When in fact, tuition was covered, and a plan was in place for any loans. And, separate from financial needs (imagined or real!) she still wanted to work with more of her ideal clients and to make more money with ease in her business whether her child was going to college or not.

Had we not uncoupled these things she would have worked harder, from a place of anxiety and fear, there would be no real goal to reach that would feel good and she would have been striving but never arriving.

Where are you striving but never arriving in your life? What stories are you telling yourself about the reason you need more money and more hustle in your business? What would it do for you if you could shift that mindset and change the story? I’d love to help. Reach out here: Contact Nicole!

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Financial Fluency and Money Mindset

In today’s blog post I want to share with you an impactful interview that I had with Jen Turrell on her popular podcast Financial Fluency. It is rare that I get to express my concerns and ideas regarding systems, politics and my experience as a social worker in quite this way.

Our discussion covered the lack of a supportive system for self-employed people, in particular, women, in terms of health insurance, paid family leave, maternity leave and time off to care for loved ones.  We also spoke of how the current political climate is re-animating trauma within many women across the country.

I shared about my position as a social worker and the challenges that many women face in the workplace.  In particular,  how women are often slotted into a pre-determined salary for a particular job, often expected to work overtime and beyond their pay scale out of the goodness of their own heart, especially as a caregiver or therapist.

We also talked about money and trauma in business. This is a podcast interview full of good stuff. I hope you will tune in and learn more.  

“When you have had traumatic events, or abusive relationships or toxic relationships, if you don’t set up your business as a relationship with intention, you are going to default into toxic ways of relating to your business.  You are going to beat yourself up with it, you’re going to be your own mean boss, and at the end of the day you are going to feel abused and you will be the one who did it to yourself.” – Nicole Lewis-Keeber  

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