Money Mindset is the set of mental messages we’ve adopted or learned in the past that come to create our current approach to money in our lives today, even when external conditions have changed. Yes, our past experiences and beliefs about money impact us today, even to the point of how much money we make, spend, save, and squander. Now, THAT is something to pay attention to!
I would really love to tell you that as I’ve got my shit all figured out, but, alas, that is not the case. In fact, I’m a DAMN FINE Business Therapist because I haven’t gotten my shit figured out! I’m in the struggle, just like you! This keeps me hungry and “in the game,” wanting to learn and grow; hungry for knowledge; needing support and guidance. I feel where you are because I am right beside you.
The holidays are over, and many of us are coming up for air from all of the Holiday celebrations and expectations. There […]
So how do we know when we have healed something?
This is always the question that I have tried to answer for myself and my clients. I mean think about it when you have a physical wound or a broken bone, there is not one light switch moment when you are healed. It does not work that way. In reality, healing happens in all of the little moments and we do not often notice that the healing took place until we look back and see how far we have come. You realize that the wound has now stopped bleeding, or the scar is fading. The break is impacting your mobility less, you can now walk with one crutch instead of two, and you can get out of bed by yourself again. These are all of the little noticings that happen as you realize you are healing.
Affirmations are helpful. Manifesting your wildest desires is a worthy goal. Daily prompts and check-in posts have their place but I am not going to focus on that.
I believe in healing and in integration that is personalized to you.
What does “making it” actually look like? Who will you be and what do you need to accomplish to find redemption? The therapist in me would like to issue you an even deeper question. Who told you that you needed redemption anyway and is it really true? Is it possible to have your business just because you want it and not to prove your worthiness which by the way was a job it was never meant to have?
I am often told “You are so lucky that you are working for yourself now”, or “I wish I could do that too” There is no luck involved in this I promise you! But there are steps that you can take to begin to step up into your brilliance! These are some of the steps I took and that I teach my clients to as well.
It can happen in an instant as an entrepreneur. One moment you’re feeling on top of the world and you’re thrilled with your business and the next, you’re spiraling into a sea of self-doubt. A lot of things can trigger that negative narrative but one of the major factors in the thought process is comparison. As you’re going about your business, it’s easy to get derailed by someone else who appears to be doing better, thinking smarter, or going further than you are, even if you have very little evidence that they’re outperforming you.
We need to take an honest look at our life experiences and how they support us, how they can create challenges, and even create a pathway towards change, we do not drop our baggage at the door when we start a business, take a job, or enter into a relationship. It is wise to look at everything we bring to the table.
I recognize this trigger of mine. We have had a lifetime together. Instead of spending energy trying to get rid of it, I have spent my time getting to know it and how it shows up for me so that I can move past it and step around it. I am grateful for the knowledge of this trigger and that I have embraced the brilliance that was created by doing things My Way.